Life can deal us some tremendously negative blows. Think about how many times you have to overcome discouragement – even in a single day.
It has been brought to my attention that i can be really negative and negativity can not only grab ahold of you and bring you down but it can bring down the people you love too. which brings me to my next question. How do i change myself? not only for me for but for others around me that have to put up with this negative state of mine. I think its hard to see yourself as a negative person unless you physically see yourself doing it.
Its easy to see from an outside prospective, for example if i was around a negative person, i could easily say to myself god that person needs some positivity in their life, why aren’t they more positive? can’t they see all of the things they have in life. But again for some reason even if someone tells you this directly it doesn’t always go in first time. This is because even tough the brain is the most spectacular organ in our bodies and you need it for everything you do you have to reteach it time to time, for example like a check up at the doctors or a MOT for your car.
The brain is the boss of your body. It runs the show and controls just about everything you do, even when you’re asleep. If you actually sit and think about all of the stuff you do on a daily basis, like me writing this post for example (in a Carrie Bradshaw style i will admit haha), we as humans take this for grated because its all we’ve ever known and we don’t think about the amount of energy the brain is using to do something we think of as an everyday tool.
After doing something time after time in a certain way does your brain become a tool of repetition to lower the amount of work that it has to deal with? If so i can totally see why. If i find a way of doing a task and i find it saves me time and energy, i will continue to do it in that manner because its less work for me. If we think of the brain in this manner does it mean we can retrain the brain to do and look at things differently?
If you make a bad choice in life you automatically say the words “what was i thinking, or stupid brain” when in theory its not the brains fault at all its your fault for making your brain lazy.
So, how do i get from being/thinking negative to being/thinking like the positive human being i want to be? I am going to start by trying to retrain my brain and I’m going to do that in steps.
Step 1 – I’m going to choose a mantra for every new day wether it be “today is going to be a good day” or “i feel great today” once i have done this for a few days i will start introducing my next step.
Step 2 – Make a gratitude list – At the end of a long day at work i am going to write down 5 things i am grateful for weather it be The gorgeous hot sun or a new baby being brought into the world or the old couple sitting together holding hand on a bench smiling an d gaming into each others eyes or even something as simple as have air con in my hot car.
Step 3 – Transform a negative into a positive – This step is really important and possibly the longest step to do because no matter who you are, whether you’re a movie star or the CEO of a massive company, everyone experiences negative thoughts.
After doing some research, i have found a way to do this step in the easiest format i can think of.
Accept – acknowledge my negative thoughts. The more i fear them, fight them or try to avoid them, the stronger their voices will become. i can’t effectively deal with a problem until i accept i have one.
Breathe – “When you feel life out of focus, always return to basic of life. Breathing. No breath, no life.” – Mr. Miyagi (Karate Kid) As crazy as it sounds, it works. This is a crucial step in stress and fear management. Breathing is the core practice of things like yoga and meditation for a reason: It calms the nervous system, which in turn calms the physiological response to stress.
Breathing takes us into our next step quite nicely….
Step 4 – Meditation and Yoga – i will admit whenever i think of yoga i think of those crazy poses like downward facing dog lol but after doing research i have come to realise that yoga is not just about the physical practice. i found a great website to help me with this part of my journey to being a more positive/well rounded Donna that people might actually prefer to spend time with – http://www.besthealthmag.ca/best-you/yoga/yoga-meditation-a-beginners-guide/
After doing my goals above I’m positive in thinking that this will help in terms of retraining my brain and i will be well on the way to becoming the person i want to be. Even after writing this post and making a plan on paper (well on my macbook) i feel more positive and a lot of stress i was carrying has now started to move.
In the near future there will be a blog post about my next steps following on for this and my future plan into taking on a different religion.